attention ladies: how to get a man to do what you want

........start doing it yourself!!! especially if it's a job that a man should be doing anyways! men don't like to be "shown up" by women, so if you start something that they should be doing, they'll take over "because you're not doing it right." and even if you only want them to do one little part, like unscrew 18 inch screws holding up a fluorescent light in a ceiling or cut one little board, they'll take over. men want to be "the hero" so they'll just finish the project! case in point: "can i borrow your circular saw?" "sure, i'll be glad to cut that board for you." next thing you know, you've got 2 shelves!!!! or like today, i was changing out the lights in my kitchen. i did the easy one first, the one over the sink. then while taking down the fluorescent fixtures, i was having troubles getting what seemed like 18 inch screws on molly bolts out of the ceiling. i got one screw out - make a nice sized little hole in the ceiling but then since i only have 2 hands, the fixture slipped & tore the other screw that i had started to remove right out of the ceiling, molly bolt & all! made a big hole which i now have to patch & that means paint the whole ceiling, which i didn't want to do but now that's a forthcoming project!!!!! so i'm "this" close to calling a man with a circular saw, but no, i want to prove that i can do this myself!! so i call my friend joyce to see if she can come hold the fixture while i remove the screws. i got her voice mail so i left a message & kept at those screws. after a little bit the doorbell rings. i'm thinking hoping it's a man with a circular saw riding up on his white horse red pickup truck to rescue help me!! well, lo & behold!!!! it's a man who owns a circular saw but not A MAN WITH A CIRCULAR SAW! it's my friend joyce & her husband bruce! he said his usual "i'm here!" & asked if i needed help!!! so WE took down the other fixture & then bruce proceeded to TAKE OVER MY PROJECT!!!!! it became HIS project & he put up the other 2 lights!!!!!! it was mine & joyce's job to just stand there, watch & make cute comments!!!! so bruce was the hero & i got my lights done!!!! in a way i wanted to do them, but what the heck!!! if a man's gonna be willing to do something for you, LET HIM!!!!!! here are the pictures:

when doing electrical work, this helps!!!!!!

this is when "MY project" became "HIS project"!!!

they're not as bright as fluorescents, or as bright as some people would like them, but i like them!!! they've got a sort of a "romantic softness" to them!!!! and for the amount of cooking i do, they'll do!!

i had designed what "amwacs" called "barbed wire chandaliers" - i really wanted them, but these will do!!! they're old-fashioned looking, country farmhouse looking, they're ME!!!! (i love the old fashioned "edison bulbs"!!) now a salad for dinner, a sam elliott movie & another pitcher of frozen margaritas......a perfect end to a busy day!!! linking to: http://savvysouthernstyle.blogspot.com/